I ask because the php/pearl mail thingy does not work on my host and is to unreliable...

Really need to start getting emails... anyone help?

Just a suggestion ...but why don't you edit your profile and nominate not to receive email from your forms.
That will get rid of the envelope, and then somewhere on your blog simply link to an encrypted email link that you can easily make at
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